Why love languages don’t work ?

How many of you have read these books? I will confess I’m a avid reader and other then my V.C Andrew’s ” Flowers in the attic” series, ( I read every book from that one through Heaven) that lasted from the late 80’s throughout the nineties, all of my reading is: self help, love and relationships, spirituality e.t.c. I’ve always had a quest for knowledge and self improvement.

This led me to think, after studying and applying all of these scientific techniques, how come the results weren’t blissful love, mutual intimacy, red hot passion???

WHERE WERE MY FIREWORKS?

So let’s take the 5 love languages, for instance. In no particular order.

1. Words of affirmation. 2. Act’s of service. 3. The receiving of gifts. 4. Touch ( I believe it’s physical touch) 5. Quality time.

The premise is that we all respond to one of these five love languages as a core language; their science behind this is that we give love out, the same way in which we want to receive it back. Huh? Sounds true, so let’s go with it.

Now… in a perfect world…

Let’s all just take a moment to process this ” perfect Avatar robot science theory for a sec.

The first thing that was out of balance for me was; we, us, let’s just say me resonating with a core language? Bull ish… I am a spiritual being having a very human experience and I can say for certain that 3 out of the 5 are equal in importance in speaking to my heart center.

We’re multifaceted,ever changing, growing persons and with these maturing evolving moments in life; who we are and the way we receive and give love change too. Ponder this concept: that you may not even need someone else to speak a language of love to you? The concept that you have all the language of love you need within.

WHO IS V ?

I am so many things

that are not one in the same

Various hats adorn my head

yet I have but just one name

Ve’shon

I have a love for this world- that spans lifetimes

For my God… my family… love overall for mankind

I am one who sees beauty

Where dark shadows abide

A lighthouse for the broken

Their safe port in from the tide

I’m a night light in the dark

A seeker of truths

I can see what you say…

I can hear what you do…

A warrior- A fighter

The oh so great debater

A sympathetic ear – shy and empathetic

A balanced peacemaker

All these things inner woven

Make for colorful vines

That sparks the beauty of V

and my uniquely bright shine.

THIS IS JUST A FRACTION OF HOW I SEE MYSELF AND SO MANY OTHERS.

LET’S HELP ONE ANOTHER FIND THEIR LIGHT. V.

#❤💡UNITE

The great Democracy?

I glance through the news articles and I’ll be the first one to admit that I’m not as up-to-date as maybe I should be when it comes to the political back and forth.

I also feel whether or not President Trump is the candidate I voted for; is irrelevant, he is in fact our President,and should be addressed as such when spoken about publicly.

Stay with me now…

Some may feel justified to behave in a barbaric manner or speak in non flattering visually stimulating words, because he himself has mastered the art; but in doing so we only perpetuate degradation, and fear and we become a mirror. A mirror of the masses spouting from the cuff, we become what we see in him that displeases us.

So I was thinking today about our country and other countries in this remarkable world, what popped into my mind kind of through me for a loop, I want to know how and what you people think?

I analyze people. I see what they say. I hear what they do. I feel and observe things with every sense my body has. Is it just me, or does anyone else feel like if there was no-one to stop him our Presidency would be a Dictatorship?

MY CHANGES

You ever notice how you begin something and it blossoms into something even bigger then you expected it to be?

Funny really I suppose, maybe this is how spiritual awakenings are supposed to work; by us realizing our untapped potential , developing the gifts that have laid dormant for so long ,discovering our path along the way as we heal past trauma and brokenness, because along this journey you will find out some interesting things about yourself, some known to you- and others you either were in denial of or,hadn’t realized you were in need-thought you had it all figured out, only to find-truly… you were part of the problem, versus the way you’d seen yourself , being the solution.

It will make you question your beliefs.

Your principals, because for some, the lot of these stem from our upbringing, from families we love ( even though, let’s face it, we all cringe when it’s family reunion time. At least in my family we do. ) it’s no longer a celebration of family, in my opinion; it’s a resume show down, the who’ s doing better than whom in the family, whose children have been through whatever triumphs… it’s disheartening to say the least. The in- laws the same. I am a loving person. Very flawed. My heart is so full of love and compassion that to walk into a room of family and I know. ..that you do not view the hearts of myself, my husband and our children the same way you view the rest of an imperfect family…” as a empath and intuitive and a healer”you pick up on it right away, it leaves you with a level of sadness not for myself, because I have resolved my issues of rejection and abandonment, but for my children and husband. When it comes to my family I have simply learned to detach from any painful feelings. So I am able to love them unconditionally. Without myself being hurt. My in- laws Do not misunderstand Uncle Rick all I can say is wow! Thankyou 100 times over. I love you forever. I do not need to be classless or petty because that is simply not me. On both sides of the family. Mine as well as my Husbands, there’s no need for me to drop any names. You know exactly who you are!! If you have ever made myself, my husband or ANY of my children feel less then ,you have any other family members. SHAME we all have problems. WE ALL MAKE MISTAKES. THE GREATEST THING I KNOW FOR CERTAIN ABOUT THE CHALMERS/ LOSEY MIX is that when we have someone not slamming us. Just holding us accountable, we rise up. Stronger and better. We do not hide from our problems. Or deny our truths. They become our character. And make us better. Our struggle becomes the shine in our eyes. The lesson truly learned. A teaching tool to help empower and uplift others. Not a shameful secret we hope no-one finds out about. We use every part of our hearts to help serve another…whether it be in our blessings, failure, grief or foolishness. You never know what part of your journey connects to the heart of another’s soul and helps them make a better choice.

Here’s the thing.. .

Don’t be afraid that as you awaken you will lose the old you. My thoughts are you shed what’s no longer necessary, no longer needed, no longer for your highest good; all the things that gave you your heart and edge and personality will still be there.

I remember after being Ordained as a Spiritual Minister and saying my first few curse words. OH MY GOSH… I was beside myself with conflict, in meditation I found resolution.

You cursed before Reiki.

You cursed before Ordination.

Was your heart any different then?

NO.

DON’T CHANGE YOU.

LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY AND TEACH OTHERS TO DO THE SAME.

Religion versus Spirituality

I HAVE BEEN HEARING SO MUCH ON MY PERSONAL FACEBOOK PAGE ABOUT THE ISSUE OF RELIGION VERSUS SPIRITUALITY. WHAT I HAVE READ; AND LET ME SAY THIS, I READ, CHECKED OUT THE COMMENTS, GOT MY MIND BLOWN BY HOW SOME PEOPLES PERCEPTIONS OF THINGS NOT LIKE THEIRS ARE INHERENTLY BAD. I THEN TAKE A STEP BACK AND PROCESS THINGS FROM EVERY ANGLE POSSIBLE, SOMETIMES I MAY COMMENT, OTHER TIMES NOT. WITHOUT REGURGITATING THE ENTIRE POST… THE CONSENSUS WAS, THAT IF YOU WERE SPIRITUAL, THAT YOU DID NOT BELIEVE IN GOD, THE BIBLE, E.T.C. THERE WAS MORE…. I MUST APOLOGIZE FOR MY LACK OF ALL OF THEIR FACTS… AS I’D STATED EARLIER , MY MIND HAD BEEN BLOWN. IT WAS ABOUT THIS POINT THAT IT HAPPENED.

I LOOKED FOR MISSING POST. CERTAINLY I’D MISSED SOMETHING. THIS HAD TO HAVE BEEN ONE OF THOSE ” ASS END OF THE CONVERSATION” TYPE OF DEALS. I’M SURE THAT IT WAS AND IS, BUT IT GOT ME TO THINKING ABOUT MY OWN BELIEFS, WHERE DO I STAND? DO I TEETER ? SO I STARTED THINKING ABOUT ME. WHAT DO I RESONATE WITH? LETS START AT THE BEGINNING.

I LOVED CHURCH WHEN I WAS YOUNGER. THERE WAS NOTHING BETTER THEN GETTING DRESSED UP ON SUNDAY; GOING TO BIBLE STUDY ( I REALLY LOVED THIS, I WAS SMART, WITH A GOOD MEMORY AND I READ FAST; SO I COULD ANSWER ALL THE QUESTIONS, AND GET THE TREATS BEFORE THE OTHERS) OUR CHURCH ALSO HAD A CANDY STORE IN THE BASEMENT ( SO THE MONEY THAT WAS SUPPOSED TO GO IN THE OFFERING PLATE, YOU CAN KINDA SAY THE CHURCH STILL GOT IT) THEN THERE WAS THE MAIN EVENT; IT WAS A TWO PART SHOW THAT WAS FASCINATING, TO WITNESS YOUR ELDERS CATCH THE ” HOLY GHOST ” AND SPEAK IN TONGUES, IT WOULD SET THE ENTIRE CHURCH ALIVE, THE ENERGY EVEN THOUGH I WAS A SMALL CHILD, I CAN STILL FEEL IT TO THIS DAY,IF I VISUALIZE THE MOMENT. I CAN REMEMBER THINKING I WONDER WHEN IT’S GOING TO HIT ME? MAYBE IF I WAS OVER THERE CLOSER TO HER I COULD FEEL IT TOO. IT SEEMED TO BE SOME SORT OF CHAIN REACTION.

IN RETROSPECT, YES I LEARNED THE BIBLE. I CAN NOT SAY WITH ONE HUNDRED PERCENT CERTAINTY IF I TRULY BELIEVED EVERY WORD IN THE BIBLE.

THINKING BACK, EVEN WAY BACK THEN I WENT FOR THE WRONG REASONS… STAY THE COURSE , DON’T DISPARAGE.

NOW HERE’S THE FUNNY THING, ONCE YOU LEARN THE BIBLE, IT IS IN YOUR HEAD; WHETHER IT’S LYING DORMANT IN YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS, OR SITTING STAND-BY ON YOUR FRONTAL CORTEX AWAITING RELIGIOUS DEBATE. SO YOUR BELIEF, OR LACK THERE-OF COMES INTO CONFLICT IN YOUR MIND AT TIMES, JUST BECAUSE ITS RETAINED KNOWLEDGE ASSUMED TO BE TRUTH.

EXAMPLE: I LOVE STATUES OF BUDDHA. I THINK THEY’RE BEAUTIFUL, I LOVE THE DIFFERENT POSES OF BUDDHA ; MEDITATING BUDDHA, GASSHO BUDDHA, ENLIGHTENED BUDDHA. I DO NOT LIKE LAUGHING BUDDHA , I DON’T KNOW WHY. A FEW YEARS AGO AS I WENT TO PURCHASE MY FIRST ONE, THE FEELINGS OF FEAR AROSE IN ME, AS I CHIMED ” THOU SHALL NOT WORSHIP ANY FALSE IDOLS” I THOUGHT ( WHAAATTT.)  AM I DOING THIS IF I BUY THE STATUE?  SERIOUSLY I WAS CONFLICTED IN MY DECISION FOR ABOUT TEN MINUTES. THEN I REMEMBERED.  OH YEAH. I KNOW WHAT I BELIEVE IN . I KNOW WHERE MY FAITH LIES. SO I BOUGHT IT.

I BELIEVE IN GOD. I BELIEVE IN JESUS. I BELIEVE IN THE HOLY SPIRIT.

I AM SPIRITUAL.

GOD IS LOVE.  HE LIVES WITHIN US ALL, WHETHER WE BELIEVE OR NOT.  FOR MYSELF, HE’S THE HEAD OF MY LIFE. THE CENTER OF MY HEART AND THE ONE WHO GUIDES MY FEET.

#LOVEANDLIGHTUNITE

Help me please!!!

Can someone! Anyone! PLEASE! Tell me what the heck this is that has popped up out of the ground in my yard? It seems to be hatching from an egg, but other than this, I don’t know? If they are snakes they aren’t alive? I don

‘t know??? They were not here last year. Help?